by S.V. Farnsworth

            I can’t stomach humor at anyone’s expense but my own. I use humor sparingly, and often to diffuse a turn in a conversation that leads to someone being uncomfortable. I prefer guffaws that involve body language that says “preposterous!” or at least chuckles including a shake of the head. It isn’t that I’m being dishonest, because I’m often being perfectly honest in ways that most people are unable to dare, but it contradicts the person’s high opinion of me in a humbling way as if I’m saying, “We’re all human so relax.”

            I don’t see self-deprecating humor in the public forum often. Carry Grant employed it in a masterful and charming way. Truth be known, one cannot use it without first being respected or at least admired. It comes from a position of strength from one who has self-worth and confidence. It is a leadership skill. It is generous and compassionate. What has happened to our society where we don’t see those qualities in many individuals in the public eye? Forget the public eye, how many friends do you have with that kind of personality? How old are these people? I know a precious and beloved few and they have nearly all passed away from old age.

            The new generation gives me hope. I see in some of them a trend toward goodness that is taught in their youth and confidence earned through service to the Lord Jesus Christ. I see generous individuals with much to give who dare to share, not just a post on public media, but of themselves and their faith in God. Appreciation of self is linked with the love of God and leads to loving others without reservation, because one understands that God loves each of us with the same intensity. He values our individuality and guides us in equity. In that way, He holds no judgment of our character and quirks; so long as we are not sinning, we are appreciated for our unique abilities and viewed as beautiful. God commanded us to be one, not the same and I am certainly grateful for that.